Marriage Oneness – Friends and Family
Friends and family can be a great asset to strengthening any marriage, but if those relationships aren’t healthy they can weaken a marriage quickly. God made all of us relational creatures to varying degrees, but how do you create a safe boundary around your relationships outside of your marriage? Tim and Lea Lundy lay out some helpful hints to help us create those healthy boundaries.
- Relationships Around Any Marriage Are of Great Importance
- They can make vital contributions that bless and enhance a marriage. (Proverbs 17:17)
- They can also create problems that undermine a marriage (Matthew 19:6)
- The key is in how we handle those important relationships as a couple.
- Our spouse must always be our top priority.
- Other relationships must be handled with wisdom and boundaries.
- Boundaries give you freedom.
- Develop those “property boundaries” and you will be able to focus more on your own property and not everyone else’s.
- In-laws and Your Marriage
- The joy of extended family. (Genesis 2:24)
- The importance of “leave and cleave.”
- What to do when you have intrusive or controlling in-laws:
- Agree as a couple on the boundaries that need to be drawn. These boundaries help create proper expectations.
- Time
- Money
- Words
- Home
- Holidays
- These boundaries need to be specific.
- These boundaries need clear consequences if violated.
- Boundaries without consequences is just a suggestion.
- The husband should take the lead in communicating these boundaries and enforcing them.
- Agree as a couple on the boundaries that need to be drawn. These boundaries help create proper expectations.
- Children and Your Marriage
- Children can bless a marriage in countless ways: (Psalm 127:3)
- They can bring unbelievable joy. (3 John 4)
- Children can also stress a marriage.
- Certain seasons of child rearing are more stressful than others.
- Beware of the big “W”;
- No Children = High Marriage Satisfaction
- Preschoolers = Low Marriage Satisfaction
- Grade-schoolers = Moderate Marriage Satisfaction
- Teenagers = Low Marriage Satisfaction
- Empty Nest = High Marriage Satisfaction
- Children grow up best in the soil of Marriage Oneness.
- Be diligent as husband and wife to nurture and enrich your marriage relationship through all your child-rearing years.
- Date weekly
- Get time along together
- A healthy marriage is the surest path to having healthy children.
- Be diligent as husband and wife to nurture and enrich your marriage relationship through all your child-rearing years.
- Children can bless a marriage in countless ways: (Psalm 127:3)
- Friends and Your Marriage
- Good friends can strengthen your Marriage Oneness.
- Good friends offer wisdom. (Proverbs 13:20)
- Good friends provide encouragement. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
- Good friends motivate you to love and good deeds. (Hebrews 10:24)
- Choose your friends wisely. (1 Corinthians 15:33)
- Good friends can strengthen your Marriage Oneness.
- The Priority of Your Marriage
- Your marriage relationship should always be your first concern.
- With healthy boundaries and wise choices, family and friends can greatly benefit your Marriage Oneness.
"If you want your marriage to thrive, make sure no other relationship competes with it. – Robert Lewis”
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